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The Chivalry Is dead

As I was looking for noodles to eat this dinner on seven-eleven since our boarding house don’t have a kitchen, I stumble upon this two guys. Although I’ve seen too many guys that were selfish and were very proud, today I witnessed disturbing attitudes of modern guys. I see how the chivalry was slowly dying in our culture and the gracefulness of our women.

What happened was while I was looking for a chair, two teachers who just finished eating asked me if the bag on that table was mine and I firmly said no. They asked me twice if I have someone with me and I still decline and normally responded to them that I’m alone.They then turn to the other table talking about the carelessness of the owner for just leaving their bag somewhere. As they were talking aloud, the security guard overhears them and proceed to get the bag on the table. I was stirring my noodles as it was freshly poured with hot water. While I was sitting, a guy rushed to me and said in a very loud voice that made the whole place suddenly got quiet as I was there sitting and looking at him.

“Are you the one who handed my bag to the security guard?!”

I told him that I don’t have an idea and didn’t participate in anything with regards to his bag.

“I don’t know. He just suddenly gets it from the table.”

The teachers then spoke to him telling that they mistook it as carelessness.

Let me give you a small background in our culture. We tend to leave our bags (except for our money and phones) to the table so that nobody will ever sit on it as it was “reserved”. Perhaps, people get it most of the time. So the teachers says exactly same thing,

“Oh, we thought that someone leaves it on the table and forget to get it back. We didn’t mean to bother you.”

He then proceeds to ask me to find a new table. WHAT THE HECK. I was angry literally but I never intended to insult anyone prior to what he just said to me about his bag. I can clearly remember what he said to me in Cebuano dialect.

“Miss, if you had someone with you, please find another table.”

Then I told him “No” while the teacher was still talking about their mistake. He then said it twice again and I again decline. For the third time I said “no”, I included to the speech that I’m totally alone but this time the teacher was about to leave so she interrupted and said’ “Oh we’re about to leave. Just sit here.” Their paper plates and plastic cups were still there at the table since the service crew hasn’t put it into the trashcan.

I was really eyeing the two of them since their table was just next to mine. In my mind, I wanted to insult them for lacking gentlemanliness in their attitude. The table is quite big. It can fit entirely four people and there were only two of them! Only two and all are men. How can they mistreat a woman like me? They don’t know what good conduct and good manner are.

I know that guys are slowly becoming more aggressive this year. Showing only their “gentleman” side to the people they know or just for their girlfriends. Its just stupidity and lack of respect towards a woman which I may say one of the things I really hate.

Then 5 minutes later, I got up and leave my bags on the table as I grab for a water to drink. When I came back, two men were already sitting on my table. I just let them be as I’m not that harsh as the other two “men” who were across the table on us.

The wives of these two men were still buying foods so I took the opportunity to eat as fast as I could. Meanwhile, they were talking about their friend who was a lover of a married woman. I just patiently eat while they talk about a lot of things and although I heard them, I was just constantly and silently enjoying my food. when the other guy that sits beside me ask, “Am I right, Miss?”

I say nothing. Then he proceeds to ask where was my husband.

In my mind, I was totally annoyed so I stared at him in disbelief. Can’t he tell I’m too young to be mistaken as a married woman? And excuse me, Not all people who ate at seven-eleven alone were all married. What the heck he is talking about? I raised one of my eyebrows while he was giving me a pervert look. I told him,

“No. I’m still studying.” with a cold voice and eat once again. He asked me about where and what year and I just reply to a short message. He then proceeds to talk to his companion about not getting married at an early age and told me that I should get a husband.

This angers me more but knowing as an ENFP myself, I just let it pass as I avoid conflict that much and never wanted to hurt people’s feelings.

That’s why I’m letting all my feelings get out on this blog. I’m not married, I’m still 19 and I’m a college student with a bachelor degree. Only a stupid guy will mistake me for a fucking married woman. I dress neatly and I put my hair in a ponytail. Only a guy with arrogant nature can reject me to sit at a table and shout at me in a very extravagant voice. I hate guys here, to be honest.

Maybe its because due to the fact I’m darker than most girls. If I happen to have a fairer skin they might show a little chivalry or the guy sitting next to me wouldn’t give me the account and remark as a married woman.

Most women who marry at an early age were dark-skin due to the fact that they were on the farm and doing hard labor for their family so they will always be exposed as dirty workers who married at a very young age to a very poor man also.

Yeah, most Asian countries were racist, I tell you. That’s why when I get married someday, I don’t wanna get involved with any guy here, let alone marriage. I don’t want to inject glutathione into my skin to become lighter just to lure any guys that I like. Sorry. I concluded that chivalry was already dead for a man who looks down at a darker-skin woman because she just looks dirty.

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What’s the F*cking deal with all of the swearing?

Why do people always feel the need to swear all the time? This may just be me okay but I really don’t get the idea behind swearing. The most used excused for swearing is that it helps you take away stress especially when you are mad. I get it okay? We all have something we do when we are mad to blow steam off mine is just different than yours and that’s fine with me. People these days seem to use swearing as something “fun” to do. Okay so the other I was sitting on a bus when this lady got on all smiling and sat next to me. She seem pretty nice and all until she started talking on the phone and began swearing her face off. I mean I would get it if you were angry but she was actually just joking and laughing the whole time. Using the “F” word at least once in every sentence. She was calling her friend a b*tch and call some party “the sh*t”. I was sitting and thinking, why does her friend let her call her that and if that party was as crappy as you said why did you enjoy it so much? Call me old fashion but I find that swearing is the worst when kids are doing it in front of adult like it’s the normal thing to do. I feel like some people just swear to validate their statements. For example when someone is losing an argument, they tend to just stop using any logic at all just swear to hide the fact they argument is not even valid. Or some people feel the need to swear because they need to validate their words and make it sound “cool”. Sometimes it because they really don’t believe in themselves. Some are just plain idiots and do it because everybody is doing. They will sometimes have the nerve and tell you “it’s just who I am”. As if swearing give them a sense of personality. If that was true then you my friend would have a pretty shallow personality and you would be doing something that everybody in this generation is doing which defeats the whole point of how “special” swearing makes you feel. Many people think that those who swear a lot are uneducated and are stupid. I myself don’t think so…the reason being is that I know way too much people smarter than me who do it. It doesn’t make it right but it’s just what it is. If you are going to be one of those hypocrite that says “Well I don’t care what people think about! I only do me.” Just be quiet because we all know deep down we all want to be accepted and loved by those around us. Not swearing doesn’t make you a good person oh no that is not what I trying to say here. I just think that people should try the best they can because it’s not as cool as you think it is. So what do you guys think of the subject? You don’t have to agree with me but let me know what you think on this matter! 😀